When I was 7 years old looking out my window on a snowy day, I remember asking myself, “Why Am I here?”
In all honesty 65 years later, I still do not know that answer. Yet having arrived at many destinations in my life, I might look at those destinations for clues that guided my motivations and movements toward those destinations.
If I were to list the my greatest motivations they would most likely begin with the sexual experience in all dimensions with a woman. Even today, I am at my most happiest and fulfilled state of being when I am in a healthy, intimate, sexual, relationship with a women. I have always known and realized even as I’ve grown older and wiser, that my energies are always prioritized and engaged in pulling all the other aspects of my life, i.e. spiritual, emotional, intellectual, financial, etc. in alignment with healthy, intimate, sexual, relationships with a woman’s energy.
The situation I find myself in today, is that I am older, and in the belief that my resources are limited due to my age. A healthy body, in every aspect, would be, in my opinion, a top priority in terms of attraction. So I need to start from a new model. I currently believe that child bearing, being less of a goal, necessitates a new model for intimacy. I would be good to define that new model. something like the The Emerging Model of Sex, Love, and Intimacy in Men and Women over 50. We might begin with revealing the new destinations that are guiding Super Agers might be seeking as they being more aware how the body is changing as it moves toward its own destination of Cessation. It will certainly be different given the following factors:
1. How do they envision their last breath, and to what degree do they prepare for it.
2. How have they lived thus far that has determined, to some degree, their emotional motivation to move toward (or away from) their desired moments last moments of life.
3. What have they established as their relationship with their body. What are the communications that go back and forth.
-Born of Carlos Anthony Diaz and Aur Rosa Espejo on May 20th 1950 1:30 am in St Francis Hospital in Bronx NY.
– Family moved to Samford Connecticut where I, and my younger sister, Constance Diaz, at 68 Holly Place.
– My Sexual Awakening with our babysitter
– My conscious mind at 7 years old-Why am I here?
– Me separation with the Catholic Church at 14
– My life in the projects-violence, make sessions, music
– My broken heart sends me to Cherry Lawn
– My first real Girlfriend
– Fairfield University, I find Taoism, LSD
-Antioch College, Sexual revolution, leaving the past behind
– Ballroom Dance World
– I recognize my Self as an Infinite Consciousness, Scientology
– Teaching on my own, Dance America, My 1st Marriage, Sex Lifestyle
– World Representatives, Champions, Dance Schools
– My Sexual Energy Changes, Tao of Health, Sex, Longevity, Mantak Chia
-Sexy Spirits, Tantra, Platform for Educators
– My Second Marriage, Orgasmic Providers, MNN, Alphay
– Covid 2019-22
-My Current Life Competing with Joy, Creating an Online Presence
I was born of immigrant parents from South America and Puerto Rico on May 20, 1950, in New York City, raised in Stamford, Connecticut. I attended, a Jesuit college, Fairfield University, where I majored in math and science, training to become a mechanical engineer. My focus shifted, however, to the studies in human thought, and I began to study theology, philosophy, and psychology, and became immediately down to eastern philosophies of Buddhism and Taoism.
Seeking less structure and more interpersonal connection, I transferred, the following year, to Antioch College, founded by Horace Mann, regraded, at that time, as one the most progressive liberal colleges in America. My interests shifted once again, this time to the arts, and I began pursuing a career in Music and Dance.
After graduating Antioch, I embarked upon a professional dance career that would last 20 years. As a professional competitive ballroom dancer, with my former wife, Bonnie Hegarty, went on to win a World title in 1989 and afterwards twice represented the United States in world championships.
We became one of the principle dancers with the American Ballroom Theater where we had the honor to dance on stages of Jacob’s Pillow in the Berkshires, The Kennedy Center in Washington, Sadlers Wells in London, and BAM in New York just to name a few. During his training as a dancer I was highly impacted by the Alexander Technique where I began to appreciate the delicate connection between the mind, the body, and our emotional states
In 1992, I met Master Mantak Chia, and began to deepen my studies in Taoism, becoming introduced for the first time, to the Taoist sexual cultivation practices. In 1997, I retired from dancing and began teaching these Taoist practices full time. In 1999, I founded Sexy Spirits in New York City, as an educational center where sexuality and spirituality could be taught as an integrated part of our human nature.
I had just completed my associate instructor training in the Healing Tao practices under Master Mantak Chia, and decided to create a learning center in New York City that would offer a practical and systematic method of integrating health, sex, and longevity through the Taoists principles that I had learned and began to apply in my life. I was especially enthusiastic about teaching men the sexual cultivation practices that had changed my life. What I had learned had not only increased by state of personal health and well being but also greatly enhanced my understanding and ability in my relationships.
You might say I was no longer a slave to my sexual drives but now more in a conscious partnership with it. My new way of understanding and experiencing my sexual energy gave me an insight in understanding how love, emotions, and sexual energy, could now work together in creating harmonious relationships as well as strong loving community.
Today, Sexy Spirits continues as an educational center with classes, lectures, and workshops, both live and online, that are taught in the United States. Richard “Anton” Diaz, is currently authoring 2 books, and teaching courses and trainings he has created including Tantra Tango, Mastering Your Orgasm, Sensual Love & Intimacy Foundation, Taontric Massage, and Orgasmic Providers.
Here now nearly 20 years later, Sexy Spirits is become a major community builder and educational center for learning intimacy and sexuality as a conscious practice in one’s life. The Healing Tao practices that were the catalyst for creating Sexy Spirits, are still taught and even recommended as a strong foundation, but now Sexy Spirits has become an online university offering a diversity of subjects ranging from Tantra to practices in Self-Love, to building conscious intimate community, from becoming master givers and receivers of sensual pleasure to better support spiritual freedom and liberation.
My goals for Sexy Spirits are a world-wide system in building conscious community that better supports our relationships for family and intimacy with others. It goes without saying that a good relationship better supports and nourishes each of the individuals within that relationship. But likewise, a good community better supports and nourishes each of the individuals and partners within that community. Sexy Spirits offers a model in creating those communities where ever you live on this planet.
Sexual energy is perhaps the most powerful driving force in our lives. Our sexual energy can provide us with more health, happiness, and well being but can also be our greatest source of distraction, frustration, pain, and confusion. Through sex we can easily create new life or just as easily upset or destroy existing ones. Understanding and mastering our sexual energy will greatly determine whether or not we create the life we desire.
Our sex drive is motivated by two strong and not necessarily independent urges; the urge to create children and have family, and the urge to experience sensual pleasure. It would seem that mother nature provided us with far more sexual energy than was actually required to continue our species.
Our current society and culture in the west directs sexual energy, far more, for the experience of pleasure than it does for procreation. This might actually be a better survival choice for our species over-populated. As we learn more and more how to economically populate and successfully prolong life on this planet, the necessity to understand our use of sexual energy as pleasure and for health and longevity becomes critical. Even the celebate must manage their sexual drives.
Though current western society on the whole has given great latitude for sexual expression as a function of pleasure, independent of procreation, western religious ideologies, since their very inception, have pretty much continued to disassociate sexual energy with spiritual development. In contrast, early eastern religions, the major ones being Taoism that originated in China and Tantra in India, embraced the cultivation and integration of sexual energy as vital and necessary to spiritual growth. Unfortunately, these teachings have not so easily been accepted and/or appreciated by the western mind. Teachings in Tantra’s “god and goddess” oriented symbolism have appealed much more easily to western culture, while teachings in the disciplined path of the Taoist monk offers a pragmatic, logical, and often times clinical presentation which appeals to the more monastic mind.
But what if these teachings could be presented to the western mind in such a way that would be instructive, illuminating, and equally appealing to men and woman alike? What if we could come to our own understanding of sexual energy cultivation that would allow us to honor our sexual urges. What if we could consciously cultivate our sexual energy into a regular practice, as we currently do with diet and exercise, that would increase our physical, mental, and emotional well-being?
Well this is my mission with Sexy Spirits! To empower men and women to cultivate and refine their sexual energy in a way that encourages and supports healthy bodies, clear minds, and harmonious relationships. You are an Infinite Being in relationship with a finite, sexually differentiated body, as either a male or female. I refer to this as a Sexy Spirit – an Infinite Consciousness, engaged with a body that requires consummation with it’s gender opposite in order for a new life to continue through a new body. Additionally, You, as a Sexy Spirit, are “ensouled” within a greater mysterious force- that contains Life itself: a Presence that delivered us into this Life, and to where we all return to. To be connected to that presence, is to be empowered, supported, and healed, by it.
The Body Mind & the Spirit MInd
As we are born and grow,
the Body guides,
the Soul follows.
As we live and grow old,
the Soul guides
the Body follows.
It is perhaps my belief, that we have an opportunity to continue in that consciousness to our next destination, or otherwise, to forget and start our search again from our former beginning.