When I was 7 years old looking out my window on a snowy day, I remember asking myself, “Why Am I here?”
In all honesty 65 years later, I still do not know that answer. Yet having arrived at many destinations in my life, I might look at those destinations for clues that guided my motivations and movements toward those destinations.
If I were to list the my greatest motivations they would most likely begin with the sexual experience in all dimensions with a woman. Even today, I am at my most happiest and fulfilled state of being when I am in a healthy, intimate, sexual, relationship with a women. I have always known and realized even as I’ve grown older and wiser, that my energies are always prioritized and engaged in pulling all the other aspects of my life, i.e. spiritual, emotional, intellectual, financial, etc. in alignment with healthy, intimate, sexual, relationships with a woman’s energy.
The situation I find myself in today, is that I am older, and in the belief that my resources are limited due to my age. A healthy body, in every aspect, would be, in my opinion, a top priority in terms of attraction. So I need to start from a new model. I currently believe that child bearing, being less of a goal, necessitates a new model for intimacy. I would be good to define that new model. something like the The Emerging Model of Sex, Love, and Intimacy in Men and Women over 50. We might begin with revealing the new destinations that are guiding Super Agers might be seeking as they being more aware how the body is changing as it moves toward its own destination of Cessation. It will certainly be different given the following factors:
1. How do they envision their last breath, and to what degree do they prepare for it.
2. How have they lived thus far that has determined, to some degree, their emotional motivation to move toward (or away from) their desired moments last moments of life.
3. What have they established as their relationship with their body. What are the communications that go back and forth.